Forbid it Man UP. On the comfortable scale, this is out of the frying pan and into the fire. Please copy the code: If he refuses your right to be present that's when you should be concerned. Is it worth the trouble to not have the family connection? I once had a "friend" who was married with 4 kids. A marriage isn't merely about respecting what each individual wants , it's a contract to create a mutually beneficial life, better than two people would have living separately and far beyond simple 'wants'.
Sorry for the annoying situation you're in. State honestly that you believe he is a quasi-adulterous charlatan and tell your wife that reciprocating the poor behavior is unacceptable. I know it's been a while but we've been busy but we have decided that we started to share her Your wife is being open with you, she told you about the incident and she told you how she handled it. This is the type woman that would sit nude with her girlfriends in a hot tub at a friend's house while her friend's husband would be inside. I went over to help her.